Thursday, December 18, 2008

Balance




1. a state of equilibrium or equipoise; equal distribution of weight, amount, etc.
2. something used to produce equilibrium; counterpoise.
3. mental steadiness or emotional stability; habit of calm behavior, judgment, etc.


Balance, something I need to find in my life right now.  I seem to be viewing myself through a haze.  A misty reflection.  I see myself slowly disappearing.  Who I am, the things I love.
There has to be a balance somewhere between work and the life that I enjoyed.  Morticia and I were talking yesterday and she asked me when we were going to get to spend some time together.  As we're both busy now, I didn't have an answer for that and I felt so sad.
I don't need to step back and look at my life.  I've already stepped back.  I need to change my perspective.  Adjust my viewpoint.  Find a balance between work and my personal life.

Janet Cartwright
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That said, I'm on my  way to try to, calmly, get through this day.

15 comments:

  1. I agree with you totally.
    Balance is so important.
    I ended a marriage with someone who never could find a proper "balance".
    Still can't to this day.

    You need to manage that job, and quit letting it manage you!!
    I say this with love.

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  2. Finding that balance is a constant battle for nearly everyone. It gets worse as you get older...almost seems like time moves faster then so there's never enough of it to go around, let alone tend to your own emotional needs and passions. I hope your day is blissful.

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  3. You're so very right. And at my age, I need all the balance I can get. LOL And Thank you.

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  4. I've found that firstly the balance must exist in your mind rather than in your physical activity.
    It's not easy to work on especially for someone who cares enough about their activities to give their all.
    You want to do your best, do it all, be the best you can be - for everyone, everything.
    This isn't possible without paying a price.
    I find that I have to prioritise my activities and really do some soul searching.
    If I find myself embroiled in the activities and problems of other people - at work or in my personal life - I tend to take it all on to my own shoulders. This often paves the way for the other person to renounce their own responsibilities leaving me with all the problems to solve while they can relax and concentrate on something else. Multiply this by family, job, friends, neighbours and all the other social interactions that go on in life and you just get a whole world of rush and stress.

    I have learned - the hard way - to set boundaries. I can now say - I will help you this much or do this thing but no more.
    Sometimes it is very hard. If a friend or family member is sick or in trouble but refuses or is reluctant to take action themselves, then why should I beat myself up and worry about it when it is clearly not a great enough problem for them to be proactive?
    I still give of myself, readily and willingly but I am getting better at drawing the lines and seeing the warning signs that I am about to step over them.

    Draw the lines hun. Your first concern is for you. You cannot look out for others if you don't look out for yourself.

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  5. Always easier said than done!!! Don't get down, Linda.... :)
    A state of equilibrium or parity characterized by cancellation of all forces by equal opposing forces.
    The power or means to decide.
    A state of bodily equilibrium
    The ability to maintain bodily equilibrium.
    A stable mental or psychological state; emotional stability.
    A harmonious or satisfying arrangement or proportion of parts or elements, as in a design. An influence or force tending to produce equilibrium; counterpoise.
    The difference in magnitude between opposing forces or influences.

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  6. (((((Hugs))))))
    Yes work, life balanc is not the eaisest.
    times in my life I have lived to work , but now I work to live!!!

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  7. Red said it shortest...manage the job. Remember it IS a job, and a job is merely an arrangement whereby you sell an agreed upon amout of your life to someone else in order to finance the part you keep for yourself. If you find yourself selling more than you're keeping....time to put your foot down and take back what you need.

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  8. AND REMEMBER.....I KNOW I AM A CORNY ASS, BUT WHAT THE HELL!!!!!!!!!

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  9. Red has really hit the nail on the head, LC. You're busier now than when you worked two jobs and I thought you were working too hard then. If your job doesn't leave you any time to play then maybe you need to look at your priorities and perhaps find another job.

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  10. A lot happened yesterday. There's changes starting today. Tell y'all about it later. Gotta run.

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  11. You have the insights Linda, all the best for the changes!

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  12. Well, I'm sitting here all day waiting...I know if I call again, you won't have time to talk to me, and I'll end up telling your worker again on the phone for you not to call me again...LOL...
    Remember, I said, "When you are at WORK"..
    that was funny as hell.

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